What do you do when someone lies to you??

Greetings!

This question has been on my mind for some time now.  What do you do when someone lies to you?

So, you've caught someone you care about lying to you.  Looked you straight in the eye and told you a bold face lie.  Doesn't matter how big or small it is, a lie is a lie.  What do you do?

I used to be the type that was very forgiving.  It hurt a lot to know the person lied to me, but I would let it go and forgive.  I would carry the pain in my heart for a long time but would never say anything.  Then my ex husband happened.  He was a man that told so many lies he believed them to be the truth.  He was good at it too.  But he would still get caught eventually if not immediately.  Then more lies to get out of the first lies he told.  It was never ending.

Now I find I am becoming a person who when lied to will get even at some point.  It still hurts a lot when someone lies to me.  And sometimes I don't say anything right a way,,, but its there in my mind and I don't let go any more.  I was never a vengeful person, after all, the bible tells us that vengeance is the Lord's.  I always lived by that, until nearly 9 years of a lying, cheating, abusive husband.  I've changed.

I still don't understand why people think they can get away with lies and never get caught.  Is it because sometimes we know about the lie and just don't say anything, so they think they got away with it?  Or are they that arrogant and stupid?

I am a firm believe in being totally honest.  Even if being honest might hurt me.  I can get over the honest hurt much faster than I can a lie.  Lying promotes distrust, hurt and anger.  All negative emotions that don't go away easily.  Lying destroys relationships.  Whether they be an intimate relationship, friends, relatives or whatever.  Each person who knows someone has some sort of relationship with them.

Recently I have caught a lady I know on facebook in two lies, in her posts.  Once she realized she was caught she removed the posts but the damage is done.  She has lost trust from those who caught the lies.  So what did it gain her by lying?  She has proven out that she is not a trust worthy person.  She is labeled a liar and a drama queen by those who know her.  She is laughed at for her stupidity.  Most of all, like the little boy who cried wolf, no one will believe a word she says now.

My parents always taught me that your word is your bond.  Always deal with people honestly and even if you are the poorest person in the world you will always have have your dignity which is worth more than money could ever buy.  I have always tried to live by that. 

But getting back to my original question.   What do you do when someone lies to you?  How do you feel?  How do you handle it?  How does it effect your relationship with that person?  Do you ever go around pretending you don't know, yet in your mind you are thinking of a way to get even or to bring the lie to light?  I seem to do that more and more lately.  I hold a lot of stuff in until I am ready to make my move.  I just don't let someone get away with it forever.  I will at some point confront that person or get even.  I don't much like feeling this way,,, but with all the lies I have been told,,, yes, its hardened my heart,,, at least in this department.  I absolutely hate liars!!  And I ALWAYS find out about the lies at some point.

So, give me your opinions,,,, what do you do when someone lies to you??